Relationship Counseling

“Make it your goal to create a marriage that feels like the safest place on earth.”
Gary Smalley

We all want relationship with a felt sense of closeness and emotional responsiveness. It seems coded into your very DNA. However, there are times in relationship where you feel isolated and abandoned leaving you feeling anxious or depressed. You may find yourself saying “Where did our love go,” or “I do not know how do we get stuck in the same argument, I don’t feel heard or appreciated.” Or maybe you feel like you are failing. Either way you did not realize marriage would be so hard. 

Even though your marriage is in a rocky spot you sill desire safe, loving, lasting relationship. This is possible when you have a map. Together we will embark on a journey to help you regain the connection you long for. The goal is to explore, identify, and build tools to help you and your partner have the loving and lasting relationship you both long for.

My goal is to create a safe and inviting place to gain perspective and practical skills to recapture the love you once shared. I have helped couples just like you move from a place of frustration and hopelessness to a place of connection and trust.

In our work together we will cover areas related to:

  • Understand love and how it relates to connection
  • Recognizing when you are stuck in harmful communication
  • Identify what can push love and connection away
  • How to have hard conversations
  • How to communicate with compassion and empathy
  • Asking for connection and understanding
  • Forgivness and Reconciliation
  • Creating deeper connection through touch and sex
  • How to keep the feeling of love alive and well

Being connected creates a sense of freedom and security. Our culture has labeled this as be “week” or “needy.” But, have you ever noticed when someone loves us or “has our back” you feel like you can take on the world? A secure, safe, and loving relationship is fulfilling not weakness!


Premarital Counseling

Congratulations on this EXCITING time in your journey!!!

As you plan your wedding day there are so many things to get done. You may have been planning for this event your whole life. While most people are hopeful that their marriages will last, the fact remains that 40%-50% of marriages will end in divorce.

One of the most important things that usually get overlooked before you say “I do” is preparing for your marriage. Individuals who engage in premarital counseling can reduce the chance of divorce up to 30%

WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW

To help couple’s invest in their future I offer PREPARE/ENRICH. PREPARE/ENRICH is an online assessment which tailors itself to the unique stage and structure of you and your partner’s relationship. The assessment is also customized to the larger cultural context for which your relationship resides.

GOALS OF PREPARE/ENRICH FOR COUPLES:

  • Explore strength and growth areas
  • Strengthen communication skills
  • Identify and manage major stressors
  • Resolve conflicts using the Ten Step Model
  • Develop a more balanced relationship using the Couple and Family Maps
  • Understand personality differences and maximize teamwork

BENEFIT FROM TAKING PREPARE/ENRICH:

  • Creates curiosity about how YOUR partner responded to the items
  • Stimulates dialogue about important relationship topics
  • Increases awareness about YOURSELF and  YOUR PARTNER
  • Assessment results help couples apply concepts and skills relevant to YOUR unique relationship
  • Increases relationship skills and satisfaction

*see Research section at www.prepare-enrich.com

WHAT’S IN IT FOR YOU?

You and your partner will have the opportunity to openly EXPLORE AND DEVELOP:

  • Identify strength and growth areas
  • Explore personality traits
  • Strengthen communication skills
  • Resolve conflicts and reduce stress
  • Compare family backgrounds
  • Comfortably discuss financial issues
  • Establish personal, couple, and family goals

WHAT YOU GET!

  • A systematic set of skills and tools aimed at relationship development
  • 1 on 1 counseling to help increase positive communication and conflict resolution
  • Understand what impacts closeness and flexibility in relationship
  • Understand personality compatibility and how navigate philosophical differences
  • Workbook with 20+ activities and worksheets to help you develop communication, closeness, and maintain team work thought marriage
  • ONGOING SUPPORT FROM A MARRIAGE AND FAMILY THERAPIST WHO KNOWS AND UNDERSTANDS YOU AND YOUR PARTNER

REMEMBER: A WEDDING IS PURCHASED; A MARRIAGE IS FOR A LIFETIME!

 

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Learn More about the Program Here



1650 Oregon St 216
Redding, CA 96001

chris@chrisscottmft.com
(530) 691-4577

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