Trauma

I feel like I keep struggling with the same problems over and over…I keep attracting the same kinds of people and repeating the same patterns in my relationships over and over…I have learned to handle the stress, the anxiety and the depression but I still feel stuck, like something in me is wrong…I am losing hope that things will ever change.

If this sounds familiar, you may have unresolved trauma that is hijacking your mind and your emotions.

We often think of traumatic experiences as being major accidents, the sudden loss of a loved one, or being the victim of a violent crime. But trauma can result from any event in our lives that creates a feeling of hopelessness, helplessness, victimization, neglect or shame. In fact from the outside many traumatic experiences are seemingly ‘normal life events.

Some common elements of traumatic experience are that:

  • It happened suddenly or unexpectedly
  • You couldn’t prepare for or prevent it
  • You felt powerless to prevent it
  • It happened repeatedly
  • Someone was intentionally cruel to you

Trauma is more likely to occur in situations where one or more of these was true for you:

  • Grew up in an unstable or unsafe environment
  • Were separated from a parent or guardian
  • Endured serious illness
  • Underwent intrusive or invasive medical procedure(s)
  • Were exposed to sexual, physical, or verbal abuse
  • Witnessed or experienced violence of any kind
  • Witnessed or experienced neglect of any kind (including emotional neglect)
  • Grew up with a parent who was repeatedly emotionally unavailable for your needs as a child

It’s important to know that you could have experiences not listed that were traumatic for you.

Trauma is a complex issue that everyone experiences in different ways. Two people in the same situation may not have the same response, so it’s important for you to listen to the voice of your own experience.

What remains the same in every traumatic event however is loss. Loss of safety, loss of trust, and loss of connection.

People who have experienced trauma generally:

  • Struggle to trust others
  • Struggle to trust themselves
  • No longer feel the world is safe
  • No longer feel others are safe
  • No longer feel safe in their bodies

Loss of trust and loss of safety typically result in loss of connection leaving the person disconnected from self and others.

Healing from trauma

Phase One: Safety and Stabilization

You will learn about trauma and its impact on the brain and body.

We will discuss and explore your triggers, associations and how are they impacting your life.

We will explore the ways you have learned to cope with overwhelming emotions.

You will learn new ways of coping with overwhelming emotions so that you feel more in control.

Step Two: Remembrance and Mourning

We will process the trauma, put words and emotions to it, make meaning of it.

We will explore and process the loss and grief of trauma.

You will practicing what you learned in Phase One as you use new skills to manage the feelings so that safety is maintained.

Step Three: Reconnection and Integration

You will begin to create a new sense of self and begin to envision a new future.

You will redefining yourself in the context of meaningful relationships.

The trauma will no longer define or organize your life, but instead become integrated into your larger story so that it is only a piece and not the whole.

Katelyn Bailey has been fortunate enough to work with a wide range of ages and backgrounds specifically around issues related to trauma. Each person’s traumatic experience and healing journey is unique to them and our work together is collaborative. In addition to my experience treating symptoms of PTSD, Anxiety, Depression and relationship conflict, I have also had additional training in treating trauma both individually and in the context of relationships. These trainings include Trauma Healing with Bessel van der Kolk and more recently the Essentials of Trauma Treatment.



1650 Oregon St 216
Redding, CA 96001

chris@chrisscottmft.com
(530) 691-4577

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